• Barbara Estrada

The Lessons that Taught Me to "Embrace Me"

I am you. You are me. We share a common story. This is the story of a girl with nothing but a dream, a degree and debt (emotional & financial).

If you are on chapter 37 or 1, it does NOT matter where you are. The story of YOU does not stop writing itself until YOU say so. The last 3 chapters in my life book have been far from perfect.

That’s OK.

Before the Coronavirus pandemic hit the world and forced humanity to take a pause from the rat race, I celebrated my 25th birthday with a party of 2. A rather stark different from the previous birthday; a year prior with a different attitude, energy and perspective on life.

"How different?," you may ask.

I was living in my own solo apartment with the dream job and dating someone I loved all the while I had friends that showed up to celebrate a new age but this all changed in a split 12 months. When I turned 25, everything would soon turn upside as we know today. At the time, no one did but it changed for me beyond what this pandemic has done to most people.

I was no longer employed, forced to live like a nomad in my city, taking on odd gigs to survive, lost the person who I loved and adopted a scarcity mindset. You can say, I lost it all. I did a 360 degree that I didn't recognize myself. I felt numb, empty, and asking myself a series of questions with no answer.

Was it designed? Maybe.

Was it destiny? Possibly.

Was it a choice? Absolutely.

The three years of my life post-college have led up to a series of lessons that I want to share with you reading this. Lessons that I call, "Embrace you."

Never let anyone make you feel small without your permission. When I was young girl, I filled my head with escape and fantasy where anything was possible. A series of quotes from the film, "The Princess Diaries" taught me important lessons I still remind myself today.


Courage is not the absence of fear but rather the judgement that something is more important than fear; The brave may not live forever but the cautious do not live at all.”~Meg Cabot


“No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.” ~Eleanor Roosevelt


"And then I realized how many stupid times I use the word "I." And probably all I ever do is think about myself. And how lame is that when there is like, seven billion other people out there on the planet." ~Princess Mia Thermopolis

All these women have taught me lessons that still stay with me in 2020. They taught me that it's okay to take time for yourself in the good and the ugly. If you feel like you are out of alignment in a path that you've realized no longer suits you then get off. The sooner you realize this, the faster it will be for you to reach true freedom and happiness.

I am embracing this person that I am becoming and still will. I am becoming the unapologetic person I've always dreamed of becoming and someday hope this message gets to a national platform like TEDx or Netflix. (I gotta dream big, you know?) 😉

Gotta Go. My Higher Self is calling. -B

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