Updated: Oct 23, 2020
Last night, I attended a feminist talking circle focusing on the topic - Imposter Syndrome. What’s that? Just like you, I didn’t understand what that meant until I researched the word during the summer of this year.
Imposter Syndrome, by its textbook definition, can be defined as “a collection of feelings of inadequacy that persist despite evident success,” according to the Harvard Business Review. People, who feel like this, typically feel like “imposters,” and suffer from chronic self-doubt. “Imposters” seem unable to internalize their accomplishments, however successful they are in their field. Now, the key in all of this is ‘successful.’
How do YOU measure success?
Is it financial? Is it based off the check list you created years ago with the house, dog/cat, and the family stronghold? Do all those things make you feel whole?
Some researchers believe this “syndrome” has its roots in the labels parents attach to particular members of the family. I grew up with an immense amount of subliminal pressure from my parents to achieve the “American dream.” When I graduated 2 years ago from my university, I recall my graduation day as the highest peak of my life. It was a state of high…. and then it all came crashing down when I didn’t continue to check things off my “life to-do list.”
As the “good child” of all my siblings, and the youngest, my parents always expected. They expected me to do well in school. They expected I get an education beyond high school. They expected I would be financially secured. And, with all these, I have expected to expect the unexpected.
I never would have thought to be where I am today. I never would have thought to want the things I want today. I, however, still am me at the core of it all. I still am the girl with dreams bigger than she can possibly hold. I still have a massive admiration for Zac Efron. (Some things, just never change.)
So, why is this the topic that sparked a post? In all its’ essence, imposter syndrome is a reminder to us all that we are all going through the same human experience. It’s a reminder to myself that it’s not all about the hustle but about alignment. I am where I need to be.
I can’t explain this feeling, except that it’s real and that I feel it.
Nothing will be easy. If it did, we would appreciate life less. And, I think that is an ingredient to the meaning of life. But, that’s another blog post separate from imposter syndrome. Stay tuned for that one someday!
P.S. Work In Progress, the Podcast, will come back on January 6th, 2020. I am counting on you to keep me accountable ;)